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Doesn't anyone believe in Dear Diary anymore? What happened to the joy of putting actual pen to paper? And why does every ordinary Jane and John think they can write well enough to burden the world with their scribblings? It’s a mystery that badly needs solving. My first entry contains my thoughts about blogging and will set your expectations. The rest will probably be stream of consciousness garbage, much like you’ll find on any other blog. Perhaps we will both come away enlightened.

Friday, May 01, 2009

Ray Of Sunshine

You know...sometimes, when things are dark and bleak, it's easy to surrender to the idea that things will always be dark and bleak.

But if you're lucky, a ray of sunshine will break through the darkness to lighten your soul.

Pffft. What drivel, right?

Not really.

You know I struggle with the idea of a divine being.

But yesterday, someone or something put an amazing woman in our path.

She was our ray of sunshine folks.

She was a very expensive ray of sunshine, but a ray of sunshine nonetheless. This woman was a Powerhouse. A Dynamo. A Force of friggen Nature. And she accomplished in two hours, what I could not accomplish in two weeks.

Our problems are solved. Just like that.

After all the worry. All the lost sleep.

After all the...

And now, with one wave of her platinum plated diamond encrusted lawyerly wand....POOF.

But here's the thing that makes her especially awesome:

She is worried about the bully too. Some of the things that we told her set off alarm bells.

She is a disability attorney specializing in student's rights, so she knows her disorders. She was amazingly knowledgeable about and accomodating of Diminutive One's issues. At one point, she tried to role play with him, but that is just not something he can do. She immediately backed off, recognizing that his issues make that extremely uncomfortable for him.

So she arranged things so that the bully is being referred for psychological testing. Now, his parents don't have to comply with that suggestion. But hopefully they will and he'll get the help he needs.

Because bullies are not happy people. We all know that.

I thought she rocked. I want to be her, in truth. Because at the end of the day, what she has done matters. She changes people's lives. She certainly changed ours.

We're going to be okay.

Diminutive One is going back to school on Monday with the knowledge that he will be safe and protected.

He gets to particpate in Field Day, the Fifth Grade dance, the Fifth grade Luau, the Fifth Grade Walk, Fifth Grade graduation. I was trying to downplay the fact that he would miss those things, but he was heartbroken nonetheless.

He will be allowed to make up the tests he needs. And the Middle School has already been notified that next year, that child is not to be in any of his classes, ever.

Does my ass look smaller? Cause I swear I feel like I lost 100 lbs overnight.

Again, thank you. You've been my sounding board and my cheering section through all of this. You may think that the comments you've left are just more words on a screen, but they're not. They have buoyed and sustained me.

And hey, listen, if you live in Georgia and you've got a bully problem? I got a name and number for you.

She can't work miracles, but I guarantee she can make the sun shine brighter in your world.

Peace Out people. I'm going to go have a very large glass of wine.


  • At 4:34 PM, Blogger Lee Laughlin said…

    Hot Damn!!!!
    Some times they just need to be shown you mean "bidness".

    Enjoy that wine.

  • At 4:51 PM, Blogger All Things BD said…

    Kickin' ass and takin' names. Will raise a toast for you tonight.

  • At 5:16 PM, Anonymous OmegaMom said…

    That is just fabulous! I am so glad! Woot! Here's to good lawyers.

  • At 5:31 PM, Blogger Notes and letters to myself.... said…

    I am really really really happy to hear this. You have no idea.

  • At 5:51 PM, Blogger Nachama said…

    I'm so relieved!!!! HOOORAAAYYY!!!

  • At 6:18 PM, Anonymous Curious Party said…

    Also, "platinum plated diamond encrusted lawyerly wand"?

  • At 6:52 PM, Blogger Amy Sue Nathan said…

    I'm so happy for you and would love to know the details if you feel like emailing...


  • At 6:58 PM, Blogger Middle Girl said…


  • At 9:43 PM, Blogger mamatulip said…


    I am SO GLAD. And relieved, for you.

    Bottoms up.

  • At 10:09 PM, Blogger Jammie J. said…

    ... and hopefully a good night's sleep just after that wine.

  • At 11:10 PM, Blogger Tootsie said…


  • At 11:17 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    that is beautiful

  • At 11:34 PM, Blogger Lara said…

    i'm so sorry i wasn't here to be supportive through all of this, but i just got caught up on it all today. i'm glad that things have worked out for your family, because you were really getting the sh*ts for a while there. i hope that this is the end of this particular cycle of problems ('cause we all know life is full of problems, but hopefully at least you can move to different ones now).

  • At 12:44 AM, Blogger Kathryn in NZ said…

    A fairy lawyer - who da thunk it?



    Yippee kayaaay etc (a la Bruce in Die Hard)

  • At 7:24 AM, Blogger Unknown said…

    what a fantastic update!!

  • At 9:04 AM, Blogger Ruth Dynamite said…

    Great news! Cheers!

  • At 11:54 AM, Blogger jean said…

    Isn't it amazing the difference just one person can make? I'm so glad you found her. Your son should be very proud of you for doing what needed to be done. Congratulations to everyone.

  • At 11:58 AM, Blogger Unknown said…

    That is the best news that I have heard in a long time. My son went through hell in Middle School & part of High School, so this hit pretty close to home. Trust me, word will get around in the school system that you have an outstanding lawyer in your corner, and aren't afraid to use her, so chances are you will pretty much get what you want without even contacting her again.(Take it from someone who works in a school system). You rock. Keep it up.

  • At 12:32 PM, Anonymous Tracy (t-gardens) said…

    What a relief! I can only imagine that you and DO are having the best day... stepping a little lighter, laughing a little more... and best, of all, feeling confident!

    Lawyers get a bad rap sometimes, but when it comes to bullies, they ROCK!

    (and I really hope the bully gets some help... before he becomes someone's husband...)

  • At 12:48 PM, Blogger Bea said…

    You are renewing my faith in the world. (Actually, I don't know that I ever had faith in the world - but I at least thought that it could. not. be this bad.)

    That is such great news.

  • At 1:51 PM, Blogger Lady M said…

    Longtime reader, maybe first time commenter . . .

    So happy to hear this. You are a great advocate for your kids!

  • At 4:19 PM, Blogger Unknown said…

    So happy for you, but still VERY worried. Please email me and tell me more so I can assess the situation from the SCHOOL'S viewpoint. Because they might torture DO till the end of the year. The assholes!

  • At 4:33 PM, Blogger Pgoodness said…

    Yipppeee!! I'm so glad, and keeping fingers crossed that it goes really well for the rest of the year for him!!

  • At 4:52 PM, Blogger Kim said…

    I'm so glad for you that it is resolved and to your satisfaction. I'm glad DO didn't have to go through any more crap.

    I hate having to deal with my son's school on his behalf...I get very emotional and sound like a blithering idiot.

    Aren't any of the administration mothers? Don't they understand the momma bear stance? If we don't stick up for our kids, who will?

    I love the line I get from our school..."we are a Catholic school after all" like that somehow absolves them of their stupidity (we aren't catholic BTW)

  • At 6:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You & DO can finally take a breather - congrats! You really inspire me to improve my "fierce" skills.
    A principal can make such a difference - I had an experience with one that sounds like she has the same attitude as yours and one that is more aggressive in handling bullies. We are happy at the second school - I may not always agree with her (the 2nd one) - but she will explain her reasoning (beyond the standard "it's policy" crap) and I feel she has really listened to me and understands my position.

    Karma needs to send some caring school principals your way soon.

    Hope DO enjoys the end of his year!


  • At 9:43 PM, Anonymous Laurie said…

    BA,I am so glad to hear that someone finally heard you and your son's cries for help! I am rejoicing with you!

  • At 10:04 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Great news! Just like that. I've been reading along with all of this and was very sad for your son.My son was a target in Middle school. It did get better and I hope it will for your son too.

  • At 11:23 PM, Blogger jess said…

    Ahhh! Such great news!!! Hooray for you and D.O. and the lawyer. I'm rejoicing along with you over on the west coast.

  • At 12:11 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    This is freakin' awesome! I hope that school realizes this is not something to play around with. I hope the actions you took to protect your son will in the end protect others.

    FABULOUS WORK!! You are one HOT MAMA!!!! FIERCE!!!!!!!!

  • At 9:56 AM, Blogger Woman with Kids said…

    That's fabulous! Hooray for you and D.O.!

  • At 4:33 PM, Blogger K2 said…

    Cheers! ((clinking glasses with you))

    And you thought you weren't a great Mom...we told you so!

    So glad you found the fairy-LAW-mother and that she has used her powers to bring right and good back into your world.

    ROCK ON!

  • At 6:56 PM, Blogger Amy Y said…

    This is the best news, ever! So happy for you and your family, Mama Bear. Yay!!

  • At 10:22 AM, Blogger Tania said…

    Big sigh of relief for you.

  • At 12:46 PM, Blogger Sarahviz said…

    I truly just breathed a sigh of relief on your behalf all the way up here in Massachusetts!

  • At 1:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Thrilled for you and echoing that sigh from ToM!

    boliath xx


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